When it comes to addictions, the saying goes, there is always tomorrow to start over again. Making mistakes is part of being human, even when it comes to a relapse or falling off the wagon. Sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom before the switch flips, but no matter when it happens, it is never too late to take a step towards sobriety.
Drug and alcohol dependency has many faces. They can be anxiety, depression, fear, anger, low self-esteem or simply a lifestyle habit which spiraled out of control. Often addiction starts as a way to control feelings, suppress negative emotions, and enhance a sense of confidence and calmness. Whatever the cause, the only way to deal with the addiction is by going to the root of the problem and dealing with it from the bottom up.
It is easy for someone struggling with addiction to feel they have everything under control, that their dependency is somehow ‘managed well.’ In sobriety, a person often finds they are surrounded by loved ones, friends and others who shares stories which tell the opposite. No, in fact, the addiction was not under control. This can be a very sobering realization but also offers a chance to acknowledge the reality of what addiction has done to those around you. It becomes your shot to offer apologies and offers opportunities to make amends.
Recovery is not an easy process. It is common to lose contact with friends, colleagues and even family due to the addictive behaviors which sometimes cause irreparable damage. This can create feelings of isolation, loneliness, and regret. There are a few steps one can take to aid in the reparative process of mending broken relationships.
Admit to loved ones the truth
People respect honesty, pure and simple. When someone apologizes and offers to make amends, it means something. What means even more is follow through. To make a fresh start with loved ones, tell the truth, mean it, act on it. One of the most damaging aspects of addiction is the tendency to make promises which get broken, over and over again, which causes trust to be lost over time. By creating a plan with loved ones to own up to responsibility and choose to act in a way that will win them back by doing what you say will go a long way to making a fresh start.
Lose the act
It is common for someone with an addiction to put on a façade of bravado, like everything is going well, they are fine and all is sunshine and roses. Everyone, including the person with the addiction, knows everything is not fine. In fact, it may be too late to repair some of the damage physically, spiritually, and emotionally for those in the crossfire. Be vulnerable, share what is really going on and don’t be afraid to ask for support. This will set you up for success in recovery.
Set goals and vision
Sit down with a trusted advisor or counselor to create a new plan, one that does not include the addiction. The addiction will have taken up all the time and energy you had to think or act. Without that on the horizon, dream up what life looks like outside the addiction, who is included, who is excluded (anyone who does not support your sobriety) and sign it. Let your loved ones know you take it seriously and start to take action on it.
A fresh start is possible, with support and help from loved ones. Check in with yourself by journaling and take note of your thoughts, ideas, and patterns which may sabotage your growth and seek help when needed. It is possible to recover from addiction, but it cannot be done alone. With a fresh perspective, you are well on your way to success,
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