When parents are suspicious of their teen using alcohol or drugs in their home, they may not have much to go on other than instinct. Some may never find anything, however, when evidence is found, the parents will be faced with a tough situation. How does one approach a teen about alcohol or drug use? Life with teens can be complicated enough, the last thing a parent wants to do is make it worse. We’ll review steps to take once evidence is found that will help address the problem in an appropriate manner.

It can be difficult to hold back reactions in a situation like this, but it’s important to remember that planning is the best route to take. Slow down, and gain control of your actions in order to be successful in confronting your loved one. Another hard part of this process is dealing with the guilt felt after looking through someone’s things. How will they not feel betrayed by their loved one? Well, they probably will, but in most cases there is reason to be suspicious, especially if something is found, so that is beyond the point.

To start, keep the evidence to yourself. It will be tough, but try to avoid confronting your teen about the situation right away. Rather, pay attention to their behavior to answer the question—are they using right now or not? Ask yourself the following questions to help determine whether they are using:

  • Are the teen’s eyes drooping?
  • Is their energy normal?
  • How do they look in general?
  • Are they avoiding making eye contact?
  • Does their voice sound strong?


As difficult is it can be, do not ask the teen if they are using! This is the last thing you’ll want to do if you suspect they are under the influence. Asking them straight away if they’re using could result in the following two answers:

  1. denying their use
  2. defending their right to use


This is because the teen will feel as though they’ve been cornered and immediately act defensive. It will be difficult to have a rational conversation about the problem when they immediately become defensive, so it’s best to steer clear of that.

Instead of confrontation, save any evidence you find and contact Treatment Now for professional assistance. Treatment Now is available to answer any questions and schedule treatment immediately.


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