As a parent, it’s your responsibility to prepare your child for life outside the walls of your home. Naturally, you want to the best for your kid. It’s a funny thing, that parental instinct, because it can lead you to make either the best choices or the worst ones. The line between helping your child and enabling them can be surprisingly thin.
Many parents of addicted children feel as though they have failed their child: they haven’t been loving enough, they haven’t been caring – somehow, they haven’t been doing their job. Those feelings of guilt and responsibility are what lead parents to provide addicted children with money, food, housing, etc.
Providing an active addict with the necessities without treatment is counterproductive and, when it comes to minors, totally unnecessary: You can make them attend rehab. So why not? You may think you’re supporting your child at home, but if they’re not getting better, you’re really just supporting the addiction.
Your child may have a roof over their head, but that doesn’t make the drugs in their blood any less deadly.
An enabler isn’t malicious. Their heart is in the right place, as are their instincts. As humans, the desire to protect our offspring, physically and emotionally, is among our most basic, deeply-rooted drives. Most of the time, the enabler doesn’t even know they’re enabling. To avoid enabling your child unknowingly, it’s important to learn – and, hence, avoid – the most common ways in which parents do it.
If your addicted child is eighteen or older, they shouldn’t be living in your house unless A) They’re making significant efforts to move forward in life, either through education, work, or some other productive us of time; or B) They’re contributing, somehow, to the household. If your child lives elsewhere and dials you asking for help with rent, bills, or other expenses, and they can’t come up with a satisfactory explanation as to where their funds went…don’t pay. Instead, get in contact with an intervention specialist and offer your child treatment.
It’s the lesser consequences of addiction – becoming homeless, failing out of school, getting broken up with – that lead addicts to put on the breaks and seek treatment before irreversible tragedy can strike. If your adult son or daughter is refusing treatment, you might have to let him or her hit rock bottom, as painful as that may be.
If your teen’s drug habits have become unmanageable, call Treatment Now today: 844-438-8689